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| | Why is it difficult to marry or find a wife in the church? | Before being active in church I used to go to Night Clubs a lot. Majority of times I go to the club I have always hooked up with females friends which is offcourse what I am looking because I am single. Every time I go to night club/s and spend some money(usually less than $50) or buy a lady a drink, I have always had the pleasure of dancing with the lady or if lucky taking the lady home that nite. At least I will have the opportunity to dance with her and do the talking and exchange some contacts. I have female friends (beautiful ones) all around me during this era of my life.
Well I became born again or at least a church person. I started attending to church occation on a regular basis. I sincerely believed in God. I believe also that with God nothing is impossible. I stopped going to Night Clubs. I wanted to marry in the church. I wanted to find and marry a sister who is pure, humble and ofcourse beautifull in my eyes.I know my God is capable of giving me the best in life. I have been going to church and seeking this (heart desire) sister for about 5 years now. To be honest I am disappointed. Not only that I could not find a beautiful sister that suit my taste but I could not even have any female friends in my circuit.
Every sunday I see them walking elegantly and dressing like queen of Dukeshire poised majestically like iroko tree but unapproachable. The first opportunity I had to speak to a lady in the church about my desire was disastrous. She told me point blank that I am too old to marry her. She then proceeded to ask "what happens with women in your tribe?" I could not find a good response for her question. In all my youthfull times and plays I have not been told by a female that I am too old to talk to her, at least not in my face.
The second opportunity I had to speak to a lady in the church about my desire of marriage was also disastrous. This time the lady asked me to give her $1500:00 to prove my seriousness in her. (Remember this are active female church members) When I mean active, I mean they are regarded as a role model in the church with their active participant/s in almost every event in the church. I do not have $1500.00 to prove my seriousness so that one fell off again. Others will not even allow me to speak out. They will shuff me off as if I am wearing my dress upside down.
If I had been going to my night club's till now I think I would have find me a wife by now there. She may be a horrible wife but I will have been married by now. I do not know how to say it or put it but I think honestly that single females in the church are mean, horrible and sometimes worst than club girls. There is always an exception in every case so there may be few good ones still in the church. If I may put it in percentage I will say the good ones in the church are about 5% to 10% while the vast majority are wolfs in sheep cloths. They are all Gold Diggers taking a different shape. How and Why do I say this? I have not seen a church sister or lady in the church that marries a brother simple and only on the basis of the brother faith/christian life. No matter how prayerful a brother could be or how active he may be in the church female Sisters are always looking for money/wealth attarched to it. I am thinking of going back to my Night Club times for at least God knows my intention and understands that I need a wife despirately. I will confess my sins latter.
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| | Posted By | jelsal | Date/Time | 2010-07-24 19:04:53 | | | Samez,
I thought your topic title was rather interesting but i read your message and I thought you were trying to say so much and some of your assertions seemed vague. You may be right about an apparent difficulty with men trying to find wives but the fault could be the brother's and not always the sister like you were trying to portray in your message.
For the ladies you went to, did you have every reason to believe they would be your ideal wife before approaching them? Regarding your statement about women and money, I guess my statement to you is how far can one really go in life without some cash. The problem is when these ladies desire too much of it, like more than necessary or have unrealistic expectations.
Lastly, if you are a brother with good intentions, then I hope you find the right spouse. |
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| | | | Posted By | olu84 | Date/Time | 2010-08-29 15:37:41 | | | Hey samez, I just saw your post and u r so right. As a lady, I am also in your shoes and I think mostly I have good qualities that a man is looking for tho I'm not perfect just the same as any girl. What I read was that u have a high taste and ur taste went for women that dress like queen of dukeshire lol which might divert ur attention frm a girl who have the qualities u want but probably not dat beautiful. I'm just saying but I knw I'm beautiful and I don't even like looking 4 a guy in the church bcos of some experiences like urs too. I have concluded not to go to parties anymore but to first seek God n every other things (like a wife) shall b added unto u. Thanks
Olu |
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