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| | Sisters, are you discouraged? | Is it just me or is everyone getting married? Maybe I'm just at the age where my peers are getting married and/or entering solid r/ships. It seems like its happening to everyone but ME ! I get so discouraged sometimes and I feel as though a relationship won't be in my near future. And what hurts even more is that I'm not looking for just any kinda guy, God knows the desire of my heart is to be with someone who has a heart for Him. Yes, I have had "potentials" but if their relationship with God is not up to par, they are automatically "disqualified" so to speak b/c that is such an important part of a God - centered relationship, in my opinion. I would consider myself a decent catch but I always start to wonder whether it is because I'm not this or that (fill inthe blank). Where do people meet people? Do any other sisters feel the same way? I know God is preparing the perfect guy for me, it's just hard sometimes to fully believe that when you're 100% single and have been for a while.... E go betta ....
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 | | Posted By | Lyei | Date/Time | 2008-09-08 09:07:18 | | | Hello Sis,
Your first mistake is that you allowed discouragement to enter your heart. Do not doubt in the promises of the Lord even though it tarries, the promise will surely come to pass. There is always a time before the promise and it is during that time that we are trained, we are under observation and we learn how to prepare for what is to come. If God were to bring the promise to you right now, will it find you in an attitude of receiving? The battle is the Lord's. However God is not going to force us to accept the blessings, we have to be in the position but that I means Hope, Faith and Love, we have to wait on God with Joy and Expectancy. Our heart must be right before the Lord. I know what you are going through my sis, I am going through it myself. I did not listen or gave anyone the opportunity to talk to me I went and I did what I thought was right. I ended up falling but God in His goodness and Mercy picked me up. So now I am quite content and learning the trials of patience with Him lol. It's His will not ours that will be done. The sooner we get that we better off we are. God is not only preparing someone was you, God already has that person for you. The question is are you in that position where He needs you to be in order for you to receive what has been stored for you?
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| |  | | Posted By | wale | Date/Time | 2008-09-16 10:19:25 | | Virtuos sis, I think your second mistake is that you are looking 4 or expecting to meet a PERFECT guy !!!!
Let me break your heart, THERE IS NO PERFECT GUY out there. I am not being sarcastic, condensending or anything.....but thats just the plain truth. We are all imperfect guys who just happen to love God. And daily we are trusting His grace and mercy to make us better. Your idea of perfection seems to be your major hindrance, since you definitely must have brushed aside some potentials out there.
Maybe I dont understand what you mean by being perfect, but I would like for you to be more open, lots of guys are coming from a far place, but are on a journey....But cheer up. God will sort you out....pele !! |
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| | | | Posted By | Chief | Date/Time | 2008-09-16 13:20:32 | | | Bro Wale –
Your write ups have significantly improved. I’m impressed!!! It seems your days of trying to figure women out have passed; more grease your elbow and mind in Jesus Name. On the contrary though, I think it is possible to find a perfect guy or perfect girl. The perfect guy or girl is the person God has ORDAINED FOR YOU. What makes ones spouse perfect? Accepting them and seeing them as God sees them. Making every effort to see the best in the other person I think is what makes them perfect.
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Lyei – Mistake? Not so sure, I will call virtuousity story or comment a mistake. We all want something in life and often we do not know how to obtain what we are looking for; we can only ask for God’s grace and guidance. Some people are good at handling delays and set backs and others are not.
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Virtuousity – I feel you; Once upon a time, I thought I will not meet the right woman; Well, I did just about everything to help God – Clubbing, Facebooking; Myspacing, Yahooing, eHarmonying, blackplaneting – you name it – been there, done that before. At that time, I know one thing for sure – I wanted the woman God has ordained for me – no more, no less. Soon, I realize that I’m looking for love in all the wrong places. So God had to take me out of the pit and clean me up. During those years of waiting, I believe God was preparing me for the future. 1) I developed a closeness to God (oh, I’m not spiritually perfect, but I develop a love God; 2) I develop a sense of responsibility 3) God began to teach me the qualities of being a man that can take care of his future bride and home. I guess what I’m trying to say is that “use this time of waiting to build yourself up; use this time to find out the real you; use this time as time to get closer to God; learn one or two new dishes (you never know, it will come in handy at the right time); I HAVE NO DOUBT IN MY MIND THAT YOUR MAN IS SOMEWHERE WAITING TO BE REVEALED TO YOU. The bible said that in the fullness of time, Jesus Christ was revealed. When the time is right, this man will be revealed and all you’ll say is WOW!!! My thoughts. Be Blessed. |
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| | | | Posted By | wale | Date/Time | 2008-09-18 08:53:02 | | | chief....dont get me started pls....let a sleeping do lie, else i might get anoda revelation abt sis !!!!! lol |
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| | | | Posted By | virtuousity | Date/Time | 2008-10-05 15:50:10 | | | WALE: You totally misunderstood me and CHEIF hit the nail on the head. Of course I know there is no perfect man, no prince charming that will come riding on horseback and sweep me off my feet or anything like that. I am talking about perfect in the sense that God has ordained and crafted HIM for ME...therefore he IS PERFECT for me ! Anything that the Lord orchestrates is a PERFECT MATCH, abi? So what I was referring to was God's perfect man for me! Not perfect in MY own eyes. I am not looking for a pious, holy man without any faults - afterall I'm not a saint myself. I'm fully aware that as Christians we are all sinners who claim that God's grace is sufficient for us. We have ALL fallen short. The "potentials" I was referring to are men who do NOT have a relationship with God. These are people who call themselves Christians and it stops there. They live a lifestyle that speaks to the contrary. No fruit. No motivation to know God more. No be do or die oh! Just b/c they toast me doesn't mean I need to be with them. Anyway, I know it will happen - it's just waiting for God's time and I know it will be awesome cuz His time is the best...until then I will continue to be faithful, pure, virtuous and prayerful ! Keep me and many other sisters in my shoes in y'all prayers !
~ Virtuousity ~ |
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