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| ADOPTIONS ??? |
For the past year I've been thinking about adopting a baby girl. This year I'm thinking about starting the process to either adopt at the end of this year or next year. What is your view on adoption? What impact do you think that will have on future relationship?
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 | | Posted By | Lyei | Date/Time | 2007-03-16 06:21:26 | | | how cute! |
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| | Posted By | Lyei | Date/Time | 2007-03-16 06:26:05 | | | What impact will it have on you if you did not adopt this year or next year? What are the reasons why you want to adopt? What impact do you think this will have on your future relationships?
Have you ever taken care of a child before? Do you plan on having help? |
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 | | Posted By | AreaBoy | Date/Time | 2007-03-16 07:06:37 | | | Are you married, single people dont adopt, you must show that the child will have the oppurtunity to have the care of both mother and father, and Y are you thinkig of adopting? Have you been instigated by Angelina Jolie? Well the idea is great but take time to weigh it well well, its not like a pet that you can give out anytime your job becomes to demanding, but if you had your own kids then we can say it ok. |
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| | Posted By | island_dude | Date/Time | 2007-03-16 07:48:06 | | | According to Washington DC law a single person can adopt as long as he or she meets the requirements, being married (or having help) is not one of them... I already know it's a big commitment. I want to do it because it will make a difference in a child life. Growing up with a single parent is best than the foster system, because the child will not have to deal with the stress of adapting to a new family every now and then. It has absolutely nothing to do with Hollywood trends, it's a genuine desire. I just want to get different takes on the possible impact such decision will have on future relationships. |
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| | Posted By | Lyei | Date/Time | 2007-03-16 08:21:03 | | | My brother,
We are not trying to discourage you just being the voices of reasons. Just do your research, read lots of books if needed and mostly pray about it. Ask God to give you a sign.
Good Luck future dad |
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| | Posted By | Lady B | Date/Time | 2007-03-18 04:11:30 | | | Good idea, but as a single person...maybe not.
A child in need of a home will be better off having a mother and father figure vs just one of the two. Think about the values you are instigating in the child's life, do you know what the child has being through for the initial part of his/her life . My role as an intending adopter is to be of a good role model, teach christian values, and show how love is to be shared amongst families. These things can only be achieved by the child growing up with both parent.
As much as I love adoption and planning on adopting...I will rather wait and till I'm married since this has to be discussed with your intending spouse (Assuming you are planning on getting married). Some spouses might still need to be convinced...and please don't say you are intending on marrying someone who shares same ideaology. I will rather I go through the adoption process together than finding out the spouse had already adopted. This shows the spuse will be making such life changing decisions without seeking the other's thought.
Above all pray and be certain your are walking in line with God's purpose...Reamain blessed. |
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 | | Posted By | Blusilv | Date/Time | 2007-03-19 05:38:14 | | | Wow, dude! That's a big, big step. It is definately honorable but I think it's a decision that should be made after you have the agreement of your partner. Why be a single parent when you can offer full family support? |
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| | Posted By | AreaBoy | Date/Time | 2007-03-20 02:36:56 | | | Mr Island, nice one, i like ya style, infact i think you dont need to go 2 far, that your cousins uncles nephew, you can adopt that one, take care of that one first, if u no get i get them plenty, we go do international adoption. |
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| | Posted By | Blusilv | Date/Time | 2007-03-23 06:16:13 | | | Hey, I found a blog on single parent adoption. Take a look: http://www.boundlessline.org/2007/03/singleparent_ad.html |
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 | | Posted By | clopezus | Date/Time | 2007-07-06 06:10:06 | | | I was in that same position and wanted to adopt a child , but after my mom spoke to me and asked me what will I do when I get married....she also said that this decision should be a combined decision (You and your spouse). As a young and single person, I would say for you to wait!!. I have no problem with adoption and once I get married, I want to have kids and adopt a child. Future impact is different for everyone just because it depends on when you adopt the child (as a baby or middle age, teenager or older) It all depends and that is why I believe now that I am going to wait until I get married. I would just have to do more productive things with my money in church. |
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| | Posted By | Aray | Date/Time | 2008-02-26 17:06:01 | | | I work as a case manager in the neonatal ICU as well as transitional babies unit where babies are born premature, or w/ drugs in system, or congenital/genetic defects. Adoption is good in that it keeps these kids out of a system which offers little parenting or guidance. If you would like, why not try foster parenting on for a while & see how you like it. Perhaps you would consider a boy rather than a girl as boys are taken in less often than girls. The effect it has on future relationships depends on the partner you chose. Personally, I have not yet dated a man whom I knew had children & tend to shy away from them if approached. Also, it may not be ideal to have different partners creating instability in your life & ultimately the child's life. |
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